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How To Be Present In Your Daughter’s Life

What’s brown and green and not looking right all over? That’s what I asked myself as I recently looked at my plant. And that’s what I also asked myself as I looked at what my daughter was displaying. No mom ever expects her plant — or her daughter — to start displaying “brown spots.” And even […]
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Why A Mom’s Self-Esteem Is Terrible To Waste.

A mom’s self-esteem is a terrible thing to waste.   Back in the 1970s, the UNCF had a commercial that stated: “a mind is a terrible thing to waste.” The commercial’s premise was that a young child needed to have access to role models and knowledge to reach their potential.   The commercial depicted role […]
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Why Motherhood Tastes Better With B.A.C.U.N.

What could taste better than bacon? Nothing. So, it amazed me that (upon reflection) I could not recall one time when I’d ever cooked it. During a recent empty-nesting trip to the grocery store with my hubby, he picked up big package of bacon. I quizzically looked at him and asked, “What are you going […]
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Top 3 Lessons Learned: Why “LadyBird” Couldn’t Sing.

  Last night, I saw the movie LadyBird. It’s a poignant film about the relationship between a critical mother and a vocal daughter (“LadyBird”) during the daughter’s senior year of high school. Their outwardly volatile and contentious mother-daughter relationship is only depicted on-screen three times in the: car daughter’s bedroom kitchen. The rest of the […]
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The Father Daughter Bond

The father-daughter bond is often overshadowed by the mother-daughter relationship. Why? Because, after a mom gives birth, the child is immediately given to the mother for the initial bonding to take place. All the skin-to-skin contact, the placing of a daughter on the chest/heart of her mom, and the mutual cooing facilitate the bond. This […]
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Do You Remember? A Mom’s Graduation Reflections

  Do you remember the first time you held your newborn daughter? I do. I remember being so tired. I also remember being so aware of her size when a nurse brought one of my twin daughters to me. My baby girl, Jasmine, was so long. And she was crying. I must have had a […]
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Adulting 102

Adulting: Defined? A few months ago, I heard my daughters use the word adulting in a sentence. Adulting. I ever knew the word existed until that moment. Now that my high school seniors are seeing the reality of high college costs, the word “adulting” has crept into their vocabulary. For them “adulting” is doing tasks […]
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5 Steps To Stop Arguing With Your Daughter

Do You Argue With Your Daughter? Ever say “one thing” to your daughter and, before you know it, you find that you are unable to stop arguing with your daughter? Like the world war splattering of shots, explosions, shrapnel, and tear gas (with even some crying at times) words, stares, and body language become an […]